I promised I’d add in some posts here and there until I could get things leveled off on my end. With operations up coming, a new editorial job, the script due out at the end of the year after a bit of a delay, and all sorts of other fun stuff, there has been a little less air to breathe than normal!
So, as I always do when I want to say hi again, first I’ll get my horse to do it! (That way you’ll smile, and will forgive me for my hiatus! Sneaky, huh?). Well, Roger can do that…
Now come on, even if you’re not a horsey person, you can’t say that didn’t make you smile, can you?
Alright, but to the point. I wanted to make a quick post on how to build your writer’s circle. First off, you should visit places like https://www.critiquecircle.com/ or go on the #amwriting or #amediting tags on Twitter, or talk to your local librarian. Find an online writing group and ask to join (or a local one). Check out writing contests (sometimes you can buddy up with people there). Give something to the writing community (like help organize a blog tour, or offer a critique to someone without asking for something in return) and you’ll be surprised how many people will want to get to know you.
But I wanted to cover another aspect, also. Don’t be scared to reach out to people who are a step above you on the ladder. As a new writer, I was terrified of talking to published authors, or an agent, or an editor, or a writer who seemed to be doing so much better than me. Now, obviously, don’t bulldoze your way into their life, but don’t be afraid to reach out. Maybe ask a question on #askagent, or ask a published author a question on their craft, or chat to them about something you might have in common. God, you should have seen how shy I was to approach someone just to say “Hey, I saw you tweeted this and I thought it was really helpful/funny/etc.” However, you need to make sure it’s organic. Don’t just approach someone for the sake of climbing the ladder (it actually won’t help you, at all).
I’ve actually ended up talking to some of my writing heroes (like Tabitha Suzuma – if you haven’t read her books, then you should make sure you do that soon) just by commenting on something I genuinely found interesting on their FB or Twitter and leaving a post. I talked to authors who were already published before me, just because we connected on Facebook or Twitter, or met at a writing group.
Also, something that’s really important is to be respectful, be kind, sincere, helpful…not just in it for yourself. It’s a friendship you’re looking for, not a resource (even though some of my friends are agents, editors, and authors, it’s not why we got to know each other). Don’t go in asking for something like “can you put me in touch with your agent” or “can you read my work”.
My overall point is this: don’t be afraid to reach out to people in a polite, respectful way. You’ll soon know if they don’t want to be approached (they’ll tell you or simply not answer), but they won’t blackball you because you were trying to be nice. But more often than not? They’ll be more than happy to engage with you. After all, they’re human, writing, and creating just like you.
As for me? You might be way ahead of me in the process, or on the first steps, but it doesn’t matter to me. If you want to strike up a genuine friendship, I’m always here. So go forth, be brave, be nice, be genuine, and don’t be afraid to say hi!